And it is thus...
You DO NOT find the time to write-you have to MAKE the time to write.
I used to write for my own enjoyment (still do) but I put no effort into finishing anything on schedule for anyone else to read and enjoy. If I happened to show a friend something it was just the luck of the draw-I had something nearby. I also only wrote when I felt like it-it was not a MAKE situation it was a WHATEVER situation.
But a WHATEVER situation will not get you published.
You have to MAKE the time and MAKE it happen. When I decided that I wanted to be published, I made the choice to make the time.
NOW as a published author, I am painfully aware of deadlines I must meet. I can't tell you how many projects I have turned in at minutes to midnight-OR even cut back door deals with editors to give me a couple extra days-my upcoming short "The Dig" in the IN SITU anthology for instance. http://daganbooks.com/2011/01/15/announcement-in-situ-table-of-contents/
But my point still stands-the time isn't just going to magically appear-something is always gonna come up-you have to make it happen-even if it is asking an editor to give you a little more time.
And by the by-that doesn't always work either-maybe 50% so far. And I suspect I have been blessed in that department.
How else do you make the time? Everyone is different-but I suggest cutting out whatever is less important to you-crap TV is a good place to star.
So in conclusion-MAKE quality time to write-because that is the only way you are ever gonna get it done.